SELF LOVE

So you may be wondering why you re feeling exhausted, grumpy, tearful, fed up, unfocused, and overwhelmed. Could it be you are not setting your own boundaries?

Do you not realise you are important in this world, looked in the mirror lately?

It can be challenging to get in the pattern of regularly practicing self love, but its something we really need to do. We deserve to take care of our inner being and nurture our soul.

Self love is about getting in touch with ourselves, not being self absorbed, its about pushing through those uncomfortable self limiting beliefs that put doubt in our minds that we can be the best we can be, full of happiness and shining brightly.

So what can we do and how can we do it?

First of all take a deep breath and lets begin

Get yourself a journal and each morning or each night begin to write down something you are grateful for

Tell yourself something you are feeling positive about , this could be something personal or something you have achieved.

Look at yourself in the mirror (yes this may be difficult in the beginning but it does get easier) and choose one thing that you like about the way you look. It can be as simple as I like the colour of my eyes, or I like my hair

Think of a situation that made you feel good

prepare your favourite meal and take some time out for yourself , watch your favourite movie.

Surround yourself with those you feel support you and encourage and allow you to be you. You are great.

End toxic relationships. You definitely dont want to be around these people, they will zap your energy levels, create doubt and do exactly the opposite to what you want them to do. Anyone who makes you feel less than the fab person you needs to exit your life.. fast.

Be brave and push yourself to experience something new, maybe a new hobby, a new adventure, a new job. Push the negative self talk away. You CAN do this.. dont let that little monkey on your shoulder tell you otherwise.

Most important... remember thoughts are just that... thoughts . They are not always true, they stop us from being the best we can be, and limit our possibilities. That little monkey on your shoulder again, puts doubts in your mind. let those thoughts pass, dont act on them, dont think about them.

Don't forget to have to some fun, invite your friends over, or go out for the night, enjoy the company of others.

Celebrate the wins, no matter how small you think they may be . Acknowledge it and accept it . How does it feel?

Always treat others with love, kindness and respect. Give rather than take. You can only control how you behave so dont expect everyone to do the same for you.

Learn to set your boundaries . Learn to say No. its ok. and this does get easier the more you practice it . Don't be a doormat for anyone. You deserve better. Believe you do!

Lean on those around you for support when you need it. Those that truly have your back will be there no matter what.

Journal your thoughts, dreams, plans .. its good to have a goal and writing it down helps clear the clutter in your mind and encourages clarity.

Don't worry about others opinions of you or compare yourself to others. You are unique. Focus on your journey as its your life not theirs.

Be creative , pick up a paintbrush and see what you paint. Art is a good way of expressing emotions.

Allow yourself to make mistakes... we all do .. ok so it went wrong , at least you tried. Learn from them and try again.

Be brave and allow self doubt to lie in the wings. You can do this! your feelings are valid. Listen to your heart and gut... You know deep down, dont second guess yourself.

Go for a massage and treat yourself to a day of pampering just for you. No guilty feelings allowed.

Plan a getaway.. its good to have something to look forward to .

Set a date in your diary to spend one day doing exactly what you want and not feel guilty about it. Just remember to turn off your phone so you can enjoy it!

Feeling better??

I would love to hear about how you manage your own self love.